We’ve all heard the classic since high school or even sooner than that. Everything we say comes accompanied by movements that quickly give away the fullness of our message. Our body language is much more important than what we’re saying.
I was just reading a chapter from Malcolm Gladwell’s “The Tipping Point” about microrhythms & micromovements. Does this mean you make tiny little movements just for the fun of it? It sounds like that, but no. It really is about every word that comes out of your mouth is only a small percentage of the real message you unknowingly are really transmitting. This made me think… good liars don’t really exist, only bad interpreters of what is being told to them.
Even more shocking, if you really think about it, it doesn’t matter if you are outgoing or a solid shy entity, when you feel at ease, your body movements come out more naturally. You respond to the person(s) you are talking to naturally. Before you know it, you’re waving your hands around to model out what you’re saying. That’s called synchrony (http://www.edu-cyberpg.com/Literacy/whatresearchCondon.asp)
So next time you feel that way, or you’re trying to break down a code, just watch out for synchronization. Who knows? You might end up finding the love of your life, your best friend, or your next job!